2014 was quite a year. From ups to downs, joy, sorrow, love, pain. You name it. What started as a year full of promise ended up being the total opposite. As 2015 dawned on me, I asked myself one question, what did I achieve last year? Apart from raise the bar in terms of alcohol consumption. I mean, I had a couple of resolutions that focused more on my career and my relationships. I seemed to have it together for a moment, but a few weeks down the road and everything just seemed to drift away. I have spent the last couple of days wondering why New Year’s resolutions always seem to fail me. Some of them are:
- The wrong friends. Don’t get me wrong, I love my friends. But sometimes the wrong ones can deeply hurt your chances of allowing you to achieve some of your resolutions, and yes, I have had those friends. A psychological study found that lack of social support increased cortisol, heart rate, and anxiety. All of these factors weaken your ability to stick to your goals. In order to succeed with your New Year’s Resolutions, seek support from friends and family, and take breaks. If you don’t get support from your friends, your first goal should be to get some new ones.
- Negative thinking. Yes, this is a bad one that has seemed to become more of my character than a habit. Negative thinking is a really bad disease. It is the biggest hindrance you can ever face on your quest to achieve any goal you set out to. I found that I am mostly scared of not achieving what I set out to do, and because of that I barely try to see out my plans.
- I didn’t write down my resolutions or make a plan on how I will achieve them. This is a really important one. I would write my resolutions in my mind, without putting them anywhere. That’s wrong. One, you will never keep track and two, you will easily forget or take for granted what you set out to do.
- A lack of mental strength. I did lack a lot of this along the way, mostly due to a few unfortunate circumstances. My mind simply wasn’t strong enough to handle any difficulties that came my way. And because of that, I barely achieved much.
These four things, I noticed, were influential in giving me another rather unproductive year. And a regrettable year if I may add. But like all things in the universe, there is a purpose. A meaning and the sooner you realize this, the better.
I want this year to be different from the past year, or all past years for that matter. But how am I going to do this, you ask? Well if you haven’t read my previous post “it’s never too late” then I urge you to read that first.
- Surround myself with people who want the same thing you want. Yes, there are people for every occasion but if I really want to achieve something this year then I have to start surrounding myself with the right people. I will need to surround myself with happy, positive people who share my goals and dreams and ambitions. They will help me to push for mine and in the end realize it.
- Start thinking positively. “Whether you think you can or you think you can’t either way you are right!” – Henry Ford. I need to start asking myself why I should ever be wrong. It’s all in my head and I own my thoughts. I’m right, so I should start believing in myself. We are all capable of doing anything we want, and it so doesn’t make sense to let any kind of negativity control us. We should stop those nasty thoughts from depriving us of the good stuff.
- Write down my resolutions. Yes, writing down something is much more powerful than just sprouting it out. I also need to put a plan in writing on what I need to do in order to achieve my desired outcome by the end of the year.
- Build mental toughness. This means keeping strong in the face of adversity. It’s the ability to keep my focus and determination despite the difficulties I might encounter along the way. This is very important for me. Events in my life will rarely go the way I want them to, but it doesn’t have to let it throw me off my game. Mental toughness will also give me the strength to keep my rather volatile emotions in check whenever something feels overwhelming and I need to be strong. Either way, I need to be well equipped mentally for the year ahead, and for what I have set out to do.
It’s never easy starting out but the last and final step is to start right away. Don’t procrastinate! It’s very easy to say you will start tomorrow, but its way smarter to seize the moment and start working towards your goals immediately. I hope this has helped some of you towards realizing your resolutions. And once again, happy 2015!